Looking back, sharing my experience and feelings with my friends and family was the the most comforting thing to me so that I didn’t feel sad and alone.
As far as other ways you can support your friend going through loss, I remember getting a lot of healthy meals and snacks dropped off to our home for weeks after the loss. The time before and after our loss we had a hard time planning meals and I didn’t even want to think about food when I was so sad. I think donating or making food for someone who has a lost a loved one is extremely helpful, it takes a little weight off of the daily routine.
I also got gift cards for self care. Self care saved me and my body! Friends and family would also send or drop off hand written cards or notes. I feel like I always received the notes on the days I needed them the most. These little things lifted my heart and made us feel so loved and cared for. So listen your intuition as far as what you feel is best and let your friend know you are there for them. They will be forever thankful.
Taken from a chapter of Be Still My Grieving Heart
“I’ve heard stories of friendships changing after loss and thankfully I didn’t experience that, but I feel for those who have. My friends treated me in the same awesome way as they always had, but I received a lot more hugs, cuddles, and phone calls, which I loved. I felt like my friends wanted to help more, but I didn’t know what to ask for. It turns out I didn’t need to ask them for anything. It was through sharing with them that I realized the best gift they gave to me was to be there and listen to me express everything I was feeling and experiencing. It made me feel like I wasn’t meant to go through this alone and that I didn’t have some sad secret I had to keep hidden inside. I know they would have done anything for me and my family that we needed. I felt supported and thankful to have friends who were incredibly caring and selfless.”